To Be an Asshole or Not To Be an Asshole

...that's the question, isn't it?

My good friend says that Ex is an asshole, hands down. The fact that he made Her a factor in this break-up puts him in that category. I do not disagree.

But does his tacky, trifling, hurtful, cowardly behavior wipe out a year and a half of a predominantly loving relationship?

Ex has apologized for his horrific timing with Her. He has tried to be sensitive to what I'm going through. And when I went to the ER, he was there for me 100%. Not an asshole.

Ex went away with Her less than a month after the break-up...while I was still living in the apartment with him. An asshole.

Another friend, who recently ended her 1 1/2-year relationship has shed no tears. Her philosophy is that no energy should be spent on a man who doesn't treat you well. In other words, an asshole. That would be Ex.

And what does that say about me? I never thought of myself as the type of woman who would love an asshole...yet according to the logic above, I do. So if I'm not that type of woman, then Ex isn't an asshole. Just a confused, idiotic man.

Am I just defending him? He has hurt me really badly. Ex and I built something real. He couldn't handle it and bailed into the arms of another woman. That's a pretty crappy thing to do. Definitely the sign of an asshole.

And what's the point of this debate anyway? It doesn't change the fact that it's over.